Luckily I have had bags of confidence in my life. There have been certain situations where I might have been shy, or quiet, but mostly I would say that I am a confident, outgoing, chatty and friendly person.
Which has helped me a lot in life.
I was one of those people (at work) who didn’t mind standing in a room full of people and presenting to them. And it has never really phased me going into a new social setting when I don’t know many there.
This is mostly because I have hardly any fears.
I just don’t have too much of a fear of failing.
Honestly, I really don’t worry too much what people think of me; nor does it bother me what they might say behind my back. I don’t worry if I might look a fool. Because, for me, I’d rather try and have a go at something – than not.
It would probably upset me if I knew people were laughing at me behind closed doors, or calling me names, but I’m prepared to take risks in life and achieve my goals. It is FAR more important.
And yet fear – the fear of failing or ‘looking stupid’ – holds a lot of people back from success or achieving things in their life. Or hinders them from chasing their dreams. Like getting promoted at work, or writing a book, or joining a new group, or starting their own business.
Take blogging. Within blogging you sit (alone) at a computer, laptop or tablet and create posts. You publish them. But in order for lots of people to read them (which, let’s face it, as a writer you do kind of want) you then need to put yourself ‘out there’. Shout loud and tell everyone what you’re about. Put your work out there for all to see.
Which can be a little scary.
“What if people laugh? What if someone reads it and thinks it is awful? Or, what if no-one reads it and I fail?”
I used to work in Human Resources, and the amount of people I came across who struggled to progress their careers, or develop themselves further, or enjoy their work because of confidence, was astounding. Becoming a Supervisor, or Manager, or presenting to a room of people can be an immense challenge for some. It’s putting yourself out of your comfort zone – and into the hands of other people, who may judge you. The fear of the reaction and comeback of others, can stop people going forward.
So within blogging, or at work, or just in life – it is important to try to conquer fear.
Which (I know) is far easier said than done.
Within writing and blogging, not having a lot of confidence can potentially hold you back. Especially if you do want your blog to be read by lots of people and be ‘successful’…whatever you deem your successes to be.
So here are my 10 ways at increasing confidence in blogging:
- Bounce ideas off people. Talk to your partner or best friend about your ideas and gauge their reaction. If they love an idea then it will probably make a great post.
- Get a few people to read your posts first, for feedback. Encourage their constructive feedback.
- Ask other bloggers for their opinion on a few of your posts.
- Don’t let the success of other bloggers stifle your confidence. There will be times when you feel as though everyone else is more ‘successful’ than you. But don’t compare yourself to others. This is a confidence killer. Try not to be jealous when other people seem to be getting far more out of it than you – they probably have really bad days too, they just never tell you!
- Remind yourself of what you have achieved. Look back and remember where you have come from. This always helps you to feel good and get your mojo going again!
- Look at your Google Analytics or Statistics and see which of your posts have been most popular and write a few more like that.
- Make friends on Twitter and Facebook with other bloggers, and build solid and firm relationships. Join in with linky’s and comment on other people’s posts – this will help develop genuine friendships with others, which helps you (especially when you need picking up and having a pep talk!). Blogging can be lonely!
- If you’re stressed out about other things in your life, and feel as though blogging is becoming a chore – step back. Have a break for a few days/weeks. Being enthusiastic and refreshed for writing produces better posts.
- Don’t copy other people. The moment you try to be another blogger you’ll end up loosing the reasons you started. Stick to your own style and personality and your posts will be better for it.
- Use social media to promote yourself regularly. Tell people when you’ve posted, encourage people to read them and promote yourself otherwise no-one will. Most people’s social media timelines are probably full of information, and so unless you are promoting yourself well they will go elsewhere.
And finally, remember that only YOU can achieve your goals/achievements/targets and so don’t let a lack of confidence hold you back from them.