I’ve come a long way with my style over the last 12 months. Like I keep repeatedly saying though, it’s a journey not a destination and is always evolving (a bit deep there) but seriously, I feel as though in the last few months I really HAVE found my own sense of style again.
It hasn’t been an easy ride in 2017 though, which has actually shocked me, because since I can remember I’ve always liked clothes and been into style. Yet I’ve found it ridiculously hard to dress myself in a practical-yet-stylish way since becoming a Mum of two. I’ve made poor choices and ended up regretting buying certain outfits.
Pre-twins (a hard-working woman, in my early thirties) I lived for clothes. Smart. Sassy. A hint of glam. I loved power dressing work-wear, causal wear, going out for dinner wear and I adored getting dressed up for a special occasion. However, for some reason (although I know exactly what it was – it was whilst I was on maternity leave and was due to sheer exhaustion and a lack of time and money) I fell into a deep pit of NOT CARING at all about my appearance. I missed hair appointments, hardly wore make-up and only bought clothes from supermarkets.
Now I am not shaming myself for any of that, or that period of time of my life…it was necessary. And to be honest I had a really, really tough job raising two baby twins at the same time; it was my top priority in life! But I’m somewhere very different right now, i.e. I am at a point where I can feel good about myself once more. Harry & Lottie are 5-years old now and I’m not the same Mum I was when they were babies.
My 2018 style goals aren’t going to be strict rules to adhere by, because style should always be fun and exciting, but I’d like to set a few things out here on my blog for me to consider more of this year.
Finding my style
Probably THE hardest challenge of 2017 was actually finding my own style. Mine. For me. Not what the latest craze is, or trend, or what my favourite Instagrammers are always wearing, but clothes that suit me and my body. That I love to wear.
It has been hard work really trying to find a style that I can call my own though.
In 2017 I realised that I don’t love dresses all that much. I want to…I would love to hang out during the day in a floaty, long floral dress and a pair of boots, but it just isn’t me. I also don’t do bold colour, and if I do buy them then they just hang in my wardrobe, untouched. If I think about what colours I am drawn to they’re always neutral or monochrome.
I also dislike feeling too ‘fashionable’ or quirky. I don’t like standing out in a crowd or feeling awkward in an outfit. The people I hang out with, and the lifestyle I have, means that I just don’t feel comfortable wearing outrageously trendy clothes.
I do, however, like casual, tailored wear. Smart coats with jeans and trainers/ankle boots. I also like blazers, handbags, knitwear, tees and denim. I also favour cropped trousers over skirts and I’m rather partial to jewellery. Style that is comfortable yet still feels on trend.
So now I know what is ‘me’ – and have worked out what my signature style is – I’m all set to embrace it even more in 2018.
I’m favouring better quality items more and more these days, mixed in with affordable wear. I used to spend little and often shopping on the high street – and very much followed fast fashion – but I’ve realised lately that it’s good to spend a little more in order to get something that fits well and lasts longer. This is something that I am going to keep in mind when purchasing in 2018 and also when working with fashion brands this year.
I’m currently loving brands such as Mint Velvet, Hush, & Other Stories, French Connection, Mango, H&M and Zara.
Style should always be fun. Clothes should make you feel good when you wear them and make you feel confident. If they make you feel negative then you have to do something different with your choices. So finally, for me in 2018, I want to develop on this aspect even more. I intend to make style choices that make me feel good about myself.
Hopefully a stylish but very happy me this year!
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Love, Jess x