Why are my children always changing their minds?

0001-32278327Something very odd is going on with my twins at the moment. Something, that for once, Google can’t help me with.

Take today. They woke up normally, nothing different happened overnight, everything was standard. And yet something had changed within those 12 hours.

I spent a bit of time late morning, making, arranging on the plate, cutting up and serving their ‘favourite foods’. Today was pasta – in a simple tomato sauce with mediterranean vegetables (and some cherry tomatoes as an extra for Lottie, because she loves them). And their chosen fruit for dessert. All firm favourites for the last year or so.

Except today Harry spat the pasta out, pushed his plate away and said “Yuk”. Lottie picked out all the veg and ate only the pasta. Cherry tomatoes are her passion – but she didn’t want them. He detests tomatoes, (he NEVER eats them), and yet he asked for hers and then proceeded to eat the lot. When I asked what was going on (you can imagine I’m in a bit of shock at this point) they both said “No Mummy”, which told me absolutely nothing, so I was still non-the-wiser.

So I’m feeling a bit perplexed by all this, but hopefully it’s a one off, so I move on. I dish up blueberries and strawberries for Harry (of which he asks for nearly every day) and she gets a dish of orange and grapes. Her fave’s. Lottie then tells me she doesn’t want it but wants blueberries today – which she usually spits out, or crushes in between her fingers. Today she eats them all. And then Harry demands that he wants orange and “No booberries”.

I’m now cutting/peeling/slicing all kinds of different fruits in a state of stress and confusion. And I’m losing my patience. Fast. I’ve been climbing up and down soft-play steps all morning and getting stuck in a padded assault course designed for no-one over 3ft tall. I’m not really in the mood for them to be this contrary. Plus it’s nearly naptime (I’m on the home-stretch) and I’m in desperate need of a cuppa and a break.

I want to scream, “For god’s sake – just eat THAT”…except I don’t, and so they carry on demanding all kinds of different things from me.

And so now I have no idea who likes what food anymore. Hurrah for my next food shop *sarcastic voice*.

Except that it’s not just food that they seem to change their mind about every 5 mins. It’s happening with just about everything.

Both shrieked all the way to a play-date yesterday just because they unexpectedly didn’t want to wear the coats that they had chosen to put on. And…to add to the drama…Harry was saying that his was “Blurgh” and was desperately pulling at it, and trying to get out of it. (I’ve still no idea how a warm and snuggly duffle coat can be that foul).

Then there’s the theatrics when they watch a TV programme. I ask for requests for what they would like to watch and usually it’s “Peppa Pig peeze”, very sweetly and politely. 2 minutes in and Harry is pulling at my jeans and asking for “Chuggington, Chuggington, Chuggington” – and meanwhile she’s found the remote, is pressing all the buttons (and messing up the settings), and saying “Frozen”.

And as for the toys? I begin a jigsaw with them, and yet half way through end up being the only one still lying on the floor trying to finish the last few pieces of it because they’ve abandoned it to play ‘kitchens’. When I’ve done the puzzle, pop the kettle on and turn around, there they are, at my leg, stalking me like crazy to play with them. Seriously?

So, tomorrow…

Will anyone wear their coats?

Who will like blueberries?

Who knows?



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  1. November 10, 2014 / 8:54 pm

    Oh yes, that’s how they slowly drive us crazy. Eek! It normally stops by the time they’re four. 🙂

    • Jess
      November 10, 2014 / 8:57 pm

      Four!! I have two more years of this?? Help me…. 😉 xxxx

  2. November 10, 2014 / 9:10 pm

    Sounds like my house on a daily basis at the moment too. This had me laughing out loud. The joys of parenthood. Wish we lived closer to have play dates. Another fabulous post lovely lady. Xxx

    • Jess
      November 10, 2014 / 9:14 pm

      LOL 😉 Can you imagine the four of them together?? Hilarious!…and how much mischief would they all get up to??!! Yes, I wish too. Thanks for the lovely comment. Jess xxx

  3. November 10, 2014 / 10:07 pm

    Haha oh dear! To be honest my so. Is nearly six and still can change his mind about not liking stuff that he’s always loved, it drives me mad! But they’re only human I suppose, probably plotting something in a twin like fashion! Hee hee x

    • Jess
      November 11, 2014 / 7:31 am

      Yep, they are always trying to keep me on my toes! 😉 Thanks for the comment, Jess x

  4. November 10, 2014 / 11:21 pm

    I have the same thing! It’s silly! Why why why??? I asked my two year old if he wanted his coat or his hoodie and body warmer. He said batman (his hoodie has batman on) and he put his arm in the sleeve and then said no mommy coat! So I took it off him and put his coat on, I zipped it up. He looked at me and did a cheeky smile, unzipped it and picked up his batman hoodie!!! Arrrrgggghhhhh! Meanwhile the changing bag I had already put on was falling over my head whilst I was bet down putting 14 different coats on him! X

    • Jess
      November 11, 2014 / 7:32 am

      Ha ha…anything for an easy life hey??!!…I think mine like to see me break, maybe it’s funny??!! Thanks for the comment. Jess x

  5. November 12, 2014 / 7:17 pm

    my girls are the same i had a melon pot the other day they loved it i hardly got a look in so i buy a melon and they have refused to eat any, unless its mine they don’t want it xx

    • Jess
      November 12, 2014 / 7:46 pm

      Oh yes!! Unless it is Mummy’s or Daddy’s food then it’s just horrible!!!! Why???? Why do they think ours tastes so much better, when it is exactly the same?! LOL 😉 Jess xx

  6. November 13, 2014 / 10:33 am

    I’m giggling whilst reading this because I remember it so well with my eldest. It’s also very sobering to know it will all be happening again with my youngest!

    • Jess
      November 13, 2014 / 10:58 am

      Thanks! Good luck with going through it all again!!!!! Jess xx

  7. November 13, 2014 / 11:11 am

    Oh how I do not miss those days! My youngest daughters are 19 months apart and boy did those years try my patience, which I don’t have much of to begin with. Fortunately, they do EVENTUALLY grow out of it. Sendnig lots of prayers your way! Thanks for linking up with #brilliantblogposts

    • Jess
      November 13, 2014 / 11:24 am

      Yes patience is something I have run out of everyday by about 915am!!!!! Luckily they have great days too so it makes it all OK! Thanks for the comment 🙂 Jess x

  8. November 13, 2014 / 9:48 pm

    Haha this post made me laugh! Oh so much to look forward to! With my stepdaughter we experienced this a little bit but as she was only with us every fortnight, it seemed almost natural or not so dramatic?

    Soon to have my own though so have got this to look forward to!

    Emma | frillsanddoodads.com

    • Jess
      November 14, 2014 / 7:41 am

      Oh yes!! As soon as they become independent you are forever wrong!!!!! And it’s only just begun for me. Help! 😉 Jess xx

  9. November 13, 2014 / 10:01 pm

    Haha this, every flipping day! Youngest hates wearing a coat too-arrgh! Loved this, made me lol! Thanks for linking up to #brilliantblogposts x

    • Jess
      November 14, 2014 / 7:41 am

      Thanks hun, and for the comment. Great to link up. Jess xx

  10. November 13, 2014 / 11:18 pm

    I think you just have to learn to go with the flow with kids because they never know what the want. Some mornings the breakfast is very close to being thrown because they wait until I’ve poured the milk on before deciding they don’t want cheerios any more, argh!x

    • Jess
      November 14, 2014 / 7:42 am

      Yes – I am learning fast. Who knows from day to day what they want?!! Learning how much patience I really have!! xx

  11. November 13, 2014 / 11:44 pm

    It can be frustrating at times, can’t it? Our middle and youngest (aged 4 and 2) are both going through a phase at the moment where they flip-flop constantly between options A and B, and whichever one they end up with is just WRONG. Because. Grrr. Other than biting my lip and counting to ten, I’m not really sure what else there is to do …

    • Jess
      November 14, 2014 / 7:43 am

      You’ll always be wrong! I think they just like to test us??!! Some days they’re wonderful and I think “This is great” and other days nothing I do is right…..ever! Thanks, Jess xx

  12. November 14, 2014 / 11:16 am

    Will you hate me if I tell you it only gets worse?? My 10 year old has been like this for years and her brother and sisters behind her are just the same. Hard to keep up with isn’t it??? x

    • Jess
      November 14, 2014 / 12:39 pm

      No of course not (although I might be weeping uncontrollably!!) LOL 😉 Yes very hard, I’m literally kept on my toes all day…..little monkeys xxx

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