I was on Whats App last night trying to make some plans with my friend who I haven’t seen for a little while. We were throwing dates backwards and forwards for a catch-up and because we’re both so busy neither of us could put anything in the diary until the END OF OCTOBER (and even then I knew I probably had to bump something else off).
Now please don’t be fooled into thinking my social & personal life is so extraordinarily exciting that I can’t fit anyone in for 8 weeks. It isn’t. Because in reality most of the next few months are taken up with the twins activities, family coming to stay, birthdays, kids parties, kids clubs and various other things that goes along with being a family of four.
When did life get *this* busy?
I really don’t remember my own childhood being this full-on. I don’t recall going to this-that-and-everything every single weekend. In fact, we rarely did much outside of our family home. My parents circle of friends was pretty small and we mostly spent our down-time visiting our local immediate family.
It’s also something I can’t stand myself saying out loud to other people either, “Oh yes, I’m soooooooo busy”. Yes Jess, we all are and no-one needs to know it. But it’s almost like it’s not OK these days to say things such as “No, I’ve got nothing on at the moment and I am just having a lazy week”. Imagine.
It’s because ‘busy’ nowadays is perceived as successful, popular, happy, living life to the max — and the busier you are the better your life is. But is this really true? Is it healthy? How fast-paced can we really live our lives without something giving and going tits up?
I’m not sure.
Personally I’m currently trying to get to a place where I’m trying not to do absolutely everything that comes my way and not to let life overwhelm me. I can’t possibly be everything to everyone i.e. be an amazing human being 100% of the time, because it isn’t possible. You end up burning out and feeling terrible.
So something I have been trying to do more and more as we enter September is push back on things I don’t NEED to do. Really question whether I have to go/do the thing rather than just say “yes” at every single opportunity. Especially with work. Anything that doesn’t add value, meet my goals, or make me happy isn’t worth the investment. And personally I have declined a few social events lately too just because the diary has been too full.
I’m also trying to schedule in more time out just for myself. It’s not easy when you’re a working Mum of two but I really feel energised and happier when I take care of my own well-being and step back from the treadmill of life a little. I’m not talking full-on spa days, but when I do get some spare time using that to do small things such as reading a book, going for a run, eating well, getting a full nights sleep and doing hobbies I enjoy such as photography and writing.
I’m also spending less time scrolling on social media (mindlessly, achieving nothing) and instead spending set-time on there; only following the people I truly admire, make me laugh or I’m inspired by.
Another thing I am doing right now (it’s September and I feel like fresh starts are exactly what is in order right now) is getting my life organised. Because when my ducks are in a row I’m a truly happy gal. This isn’t always achievable but having everything (I mean everything — even down to cleaning the house) in my online diary and constantly checking what’s coming up for the next week helps me to remember well in advance to buy the birthday presents, pre-book the taxi, buy the dress for the event, order the food etc etc.
When you feel more organised you feel more able to cope with whatever life throws at you. You have more of a bounce in your step.
So hopefully I’ll meet my friend in October and we will have a good chat and it won’t be too long until the next one. Here’s hoping.
Love, Jess x
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