How we relax and unwind as busy parents

How we relax and unwind at home as busy parents

I was chatting to a friend today about the twins turning four and talking about how there are now more moments of relaxing and unwinding in our home nowadays. I mean, they’re still little and they still do bonkers things – like get crazy after preschool or want to repeatedly jump off the arm of the sofa on a Saturday morning, but generally they are getting easier to parent alone. This has meant that Hubby and I are getting more ‘me-time’ – aka letting each other have a break and enjoying moments in which to relax.

Rattan Direct have released a survey (which I have filled in) asking parents how they relax and unwind around the home…and it got me thinking as to how we carve out time in our busy life. So here’s how we do it (and is perhaps a bit of hope to parents of young twins out there that there IS some relaxing time ahead!).

1/ A tidy home

I’ve realised lately that when my house is clean and tidy it makes me relax more (not necessarily Hubby, but me!). I like to chill out in the living room on the sofa at night without staring at toys/lego/clothes all over my living room! So before the twins go to bed we have a really quick tidy up in the living room and throw things into storage boxes and put them back into the playroom. The twins get a gold star on their reward chart for helping. I try to encourage the twins to play in the playroom as much as I can though, as then I don’t need to tidy up so much, I can just shut the door on it each night!

How we relax and unwind as busy parents of twins

2/ Watching TV

Most evenings, when the little ones are tucked up in bed and snoring away, we like to relax on the sofa in front of the TV. We’re really into the second series of Narcos on Netflix right now which has been brilliantly acted and has been so addictive. We also love The Great British Bake Off (who doesn’t?!) and the return of Cold Feet. We don’t usually watch much TV however these are definitely our faves right now.

3/ Reduce work

If I am busy with my freelance & blog work then I will work some evenings. Whilst this means that I am super productive and delivering on projects, it also means that I can feel quite stressed going to bed that evening – as I find that I don’t sleep as well. So I am trying to reduce the amount of time I spend at night working and aim to finish anything before 8pm. I am definitely more relaxed on the days that I don’t work all night.

4/ Have time alone

We have both been enjoying some time ‘off’ parenting lately and it has really helped both of us to unwind. For example, Hubby went to watch rugby this weekend with some friends and I have been away recently for a blog event. It doesn’t sound like much but being away from the family home for a short time means that when you return to family life you feel really energised for being a parent. I think it’s important to have some time like this scheduled into the diary every few months in order to have something to look forward to.

5/ Lie-in rota

One thing that Hubby and I have REALLY enjoyed lately is having a turn at a lie-in each weekend. Our little ones get up at 6.30am every morning without fail and want to play as soon as they wake! We don’t always get to do it because we might be busy with things but we try as much as we can.

Using a lie-in rota to relax at home

Having a turn to lie-in makes us both SO much happier and I have noticed we both seem more re-charged for the rest of the weekend. I especially love my sleep and so catching up on a few hours is amazing.

So, as busy parents, what do you do to relax? And do you get any time to unwind at home?

Love, Jess x


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Jess Soothill

Jess is a Mother of twins, blogger and writer.

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  1. September 26, 2016 / 8:48 pm

    A tidy home definitely makes me happy too! That’s why I think I’m so fed up with all the renovations and work happening here at the moment. I know it will all be worth it in the end. I don’t watch much TV, but I do like catching up on YouTube videos of an evening, sometimes whilst catching up with blog reading and commenting. I’d love to have a lie-in rota! My husband works shifts and actually is rarely here, meaning mornings fall to me all the time. Even when he is here Parker just whinges for me! Hopefully that part will get easier with age xx

    • Jess
      September 27, 2016 / 9:49 pm

      I am sure it will – they do get more independent! I bet you can’t wait to get the house back to normal!! xx

  2. September 27, 2016 / 10:40 am

    A tidy house instantly makes me feel happier and less stress – things all around definitely clutters my mind. I’ve given up keeping a tidy house in the day – with a toddler there is no point really – but as soon as he is in bed, you best believe that house is tidy! I just can’t think straight otherwise.

    Reading also really helps me to unwind and relax, especially if reading the kind of book that is easy to escape in to.

    • Jess
      September 27, 2016 / 9:49 pm

      I agree – there is NO point! lol xx

  3. September 27, 2016 / 4:26 pm

    I totally agree with the tidy home bit. It can be a bit of a faff to get everything organised but means you can then relax and watch television etc in the evening without being distracted by the house work. Tidy house, tidy mind and all that. I’ve actually been reading various posts about getting organised today so this was perfectly timed.

    • Jess
      September 27, 2016 / 9:50 pm

      I agree – this is exactly me. I do feel like this when my home is today – it makes me happier and more productive. xx

  4. September 28, 2016 / 1:09 pm

    I LOVE our lie-in rota!! Sometime we do both get up but usually one of us will stay in bed, even then we’re usually up at 8 but that’s still a big lie in. Agree with you on the tidy house too, I have to put the toys away before I settle down for the night, even if it’s just the ones in my eyeline, I can’t relax otherwise whereas James can sit happily amongst the mess 🙂 xx

    • Jess
      September 28, 2016 / 10:13 pm

      Glad you agree!! The lie-in is amazing and WORTH every minute! xx

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