I was chatting to a friend today about the twins turning four and talking about how there are now more moments of relaxing and unwinding in our home nowadays. I mean, they’re still little and they still do bonkers things – like get crazy after preschool or want to repeatedly jump off the arm of the sofa on a Saturday morning, but generally they are getting easier to parent alone. This has meant that Hubby and I are getting more ‘me-time’ – aka letting each other have a break and enjoying moments in which to relax.
Rattan Direct have released a survey (which I have filled in) asking parents how they relax and unwind around the home…and it got me thinking as to how we carve out time in our busy life. So here’s how we do it (and is perhaps a bit of hope to parents of young twins out there that there IS some relaxing time ahead!).
1/ A tidy home
I’ve realised lately that when my house is clean and tidy it makes me relax more (not necessarily Hubby, but me!). I like to chill out in the living room on the sofa at night without staring at toys/lego/clothes all over my living room! So before the twins go to bed we have a really quick tidy up in the living room and throw things into storage boxes and put them back into the playroom. The twins get a gold star on their reward chart for helping. I try to encourage the twins to play in the playroom as much as I can though, as then I don’t need to tidy up so much, I can just shut the door on it each night!
2/ Watching TV
Most evenings, when the little ones are tucked up in bed and snoring away, we like to relax on the sofa in front of the TV. We’re really into the second series of Narcos on Netflix right now which has been brilliantly acted and has been so addictive. We also love The Great British Bake Off (who doesn’t?!) and the return of Cold Feet. We don’t usually watch much TV however these are definitely our faves right now.
3/ Reduce work
If I am busy with my freelance & blog work then I will work some evenings. Whilst this means that I am super productive and delivering on projects, it also means that I can feel quite stressed going to bed that evening – as I find that I don’t sleep as well. So I am trying to reduce the amount of time I spend at night working and aim to finish anything before 8pm. I am definitely more relaxed on the days that I don’t work all night.
4/ Have time alone
We have both been enjoying some time ‘off’ parenting lately and it has really helped both of us to unwind. For example, Hubby went to watch rugby this weekend with some friends and I have been away recently for a blog event. It doesn’t sound like much but being away from the family home for a short time means that when you return to family life you feel really energised for being a parent. I think it’s important to have some time like this scheduled into the diary every few months in order to have something to look forward to.
5/ Lie-in rota
One thing that Hubby and I have REALLY enjoyed lately is having a turn at a lie-in each weekend. Our little ones get up at 6.30am every morning without fail and want to play as soon as they wake! We don’t always get to do it because we might be busy with things but we try as much as we can.
Having a turn to lie-in makes us both SO much happier and I have noticed we both seem more re-charged for the rest of the weekend. I especially love my sleep and so catching up on a few hours is amazing.
So, as busy parents, what do you do to relax? And do you get any time to unwind at home?
Love, Jess x
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