Twins: they will always have a playmate


We were at the swings yesterday and as they both played and laughed on the see-saw together I realised how much they will always have each other. It is so nice that they have a playmate there, all day, every day, no matter what they are doing. They are very lucky.


Since they could move they have always been side-by-side. As soon as they could crawl they would migrate to each other – playing in the same space.

At first I used to wonder why, especially because they would mostly squabble over the same toys. So I would try to split them up. But they always, always ended up back together. It baffled me…but then I guess they utterly love being together, even if it does cause negative consequences. They simply do not want to be alone.

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Since they are now fully mobile, and are playing at role-play and games, they play together far better. This morning it was hide & seek; the giggling and laughter coming from their bedrooms was truly infectious. They like being together and playing so much. It is so sweet.

I realise that they are incredibly fortunate to have a best friend who is always there but it goes further than that. It is a chemistry and bond that is hard to put into words. Even I do not fully feel a part of it, at times.

I rarely step back day-to-day and appreciate this amazing bond – it tends to just happen in front of my eyes. I take it for granted a bit.

They are hardly ever apart. I do not very often find Harry playing in one room and Lottie elsewhere – they are usually in the same corner of a room, playing the same game or chatting away. Even if the TV is on, they will both be sitting on the same sofa.

This of course does mean that they fall out…a great deal! Which used to really stress me out. I would find it so draining and such hard work. But being in the same space as somebody else all day, every day would cause this wouldn’t it? Especially when you are little and can’t really communicate or express your feelings to another toddler. However, now that they are 3 years old they are far better at ‘sorting it out’ – which can mean one giving up, or a little fight, or moving on to the next activity. But letting them work out their own differences is something I am working on. I tend to dive in too quickly and want to help (and protect) – but I am trying to step back more, within reason and giving them space to work out their own personalities and traits.

When they do get time alone (Lottie goes to ballet and Harry to rugby on a Saturday morning) they cuddle so tight when they meet up and say how much they missed each other. Even though this was only for a few hours.

Sometimes having twins brings its challenges, tough days and its moments. But mostly it makes me appreciate just how amazing being a twin is and how incredibly lucky we are to have brought them into the world.

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Jess Soothill

Jess is a Mother of twins, blogger and writer.

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  1. November 12, 2015 / 3:51 pm

    Such a lovely post Jess – your twins are adorable and as you say their bond is so so special. I guess unless you are one of a twin, you’ll never know how it feels and how strong the bond is.
    Loving your pics as always.
    Linking up with #MyCapturedMoment
    Sammy xxx

    • Jess
      November 12, 2015 / 4:31 pm

      Thanks Sammy – they do test me but gosh they are cute and I love seeing them play and develop together. Amazing this twin thing!! xx

    • November 13, 2015 / 9:28 pm

      Gorgeous pictures. You have the knack for making snapshots that little bit extra special. Do you print any and keep them in an album? What a lovely relationship Harry and Lottie share. Can’t wait to see if my twins have such a strong bond! #MyCapturedMoment

      • Jess
        November 14, 2015 / 3:01 pm

        I should do but I don’t! I do have the most important ones frames though 🙂 Yes I am sure they will xx

  2. November 12, 2015 / 4:10 pm

    Gorgeous post Jess! I can already see so much of this on my boys and I’m excited for when they get that little bit older! They squabble SO much but I have started to leave them to it as much as I can, they know each other so well I know they’ll be fine. Love the photos of them, especially those tiny baby ones, I think it is so special that they will always have one another! xx

    • Jess
      November 12, 2015 / 4:32 pm

      I know. I found your boys age harder work – but now that they can talk to each other it seems a lot better. Plus they can make up games and WANT to play together now. So cute 🙂 Thanks lovely xx

  3. November 12, 2015 / 6:56 pm

    Lovely post! I think twins have a special bond greater than that of a normal sibling… It’s lovely to see how inseparable they are, and that’s what we always hoped for our kids, that they remain close with each other. Lovely photos too! #MyCapturedMoment

    • Jess
      November 12, 2015 / 8:08 pm

      Thank you 🙂 I am never sure whether their bond is greater or the same as siblings. I only know this! Thanks for the lovely comments xx

  4. November 12, 2015 / 9:58 pm

    Aww!! Such a gorgeous post Jess and definitely a snap shot in time, these pictures will be great to look back on when they get older. Even though I have a big age difference, one of the most difficult things for me was trying to take a step back when they fell out .I always found myself suggesting that the eldest give into youngest because she ‘didn’t understand’, she cottoned onto this very quickly ha! Now I have nothing to do with their squabbles, I leave them to it, you only have to wait until they are 20 to that lovely ha! Fabulous pictures of the twins hon xx

    • Jess
      November 12, 2015 / 10:11 pm

      Ahhh thanks lovely so sweet 🙂 I know, I haven’t known how to handle all the squabbles but leaving them a little more has been better 🙂 xx

  5. November 13, 2015 / 9:20 am

    Such a beautiful post, it is such a special bond and I think it just gets stronger and stronger. Watching mine always have someone is amazing. I sometimes feel sorry for Lily that she can be on the outside of that but she gets snuggled in just the same most times.

    • Jess
      November 13, 2015 / 10:06 am

      Ahh I can imagine – but the three of them will have the BEST bond growing up as they are so close in age. Thanks for the lovely comments xx

  6. November 13, 2015 / 11:47 am

    This is a great post. I think it’s nice if siblings get on, but I know twins have a special bond and they will always have each other.
    I have said this before but your pictures are beautiful, I really, really love them!

    • Jess
      November 13, 2015 / 12:02 pm

      Oh thank you and much appreciated 🙂 They both fascinate me so much xx

  7. November 13, 2015 / 8:24 pm

    Ahhh this is so cute and I love the throwback photos too.

    I’m always a bit jealous of the relationships twins have with each other – growing up together, knowing each other so well and always having someone to depend on.

    They are very lucky, indeed. 🙂


    • Jess
      November 14, 2015 / 3:02 pm

      Ahh thanks lovely, and for the sweet comments xx

  8. November 13, 2015 / 8:30 pm

    Ah Jess this is just so beautiful, I love that they want to be together all the time. It must be so beautiful to watch them grow together xx

    • Jess
      November 14, 2015 / 3:02 pm

      It is, and I am so lucky to be a twin Mama xx

  9. November 14, 2015 / 6:44 pm

    I often think this about our two. They very rarely do anything apart. Isabella has recently started ballet classes on a Saturday morning and the first thing they do when they see each other is hug and say “oh I have missed you!”. I do love that they will always have each other. They share a very special, unique bond x

    • Jess
      November 14, 2015 / 7:54 pm

      Ahhh they are the same! How sweet. They do have such a lovely bond and it’s just going to get stronger xx

  10. November 18, 2015 / 12:41 pm

    Ah Jess this is a beautiful post. There is something so fascinating about twins, they definitely have a deeper bond that, as you say is hard to put into words. My girls now play together most of the time, they share a room and the only time they’re apart is when Lili’s in school but I know that Poppy really misses her playmate during this time. I love your pictures Jess!! Thank you as always for linking up #MyCapturedMoment xxx

    • Jess
      November 18, 2015 / 1:16 pm

      Ahh thanks for your lovely words – your girls look SO close and the new baby will be so looked after!! xx

  11. February 14, 2016 / 10:51 am

    My sisters are twins and have always had such a bond. They went to separate schools and when my sister had appendicitis, my other sister, unknown to anyone else at the time, was also being treated for agonising stomach pain! One has children and the other doesn’t yes the one without always manages to have the morning sickness! There’s no early pregnancy secrets in our family!

    • Jess
      February 14, 2016 / 1:01 pm

      Wow thats amazing – how wonderful that they have such a bond! Thanks very much for sharing, so interesting! xx

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