We were at the swings yesterday and as they both played and laughed on the see-saw together I realised how much they will always have each other. It is so nice that they have a playmate there, all day, every day, no matter what they are doing. They are very lucky.
Since they could move they have always been side-by-side. As soon as they could crawl they would migrate to each other – playing in the same space.
At first I used to wonder why, especially because they would mostly squabble over the same toys. So I would try to split them up. But they always, always ended up back together. It baffled me…but then I guess they utterly love being together, even if it does cause negative consequences. They simply do not want to be alone.
Since they are now fully mobile, and are playing at role-play and games, they play together far better. This morning it was hide & seek; the giggling and laughter coming from their bedrooms was truly infectious. They like being together and playing so much. It is so sweet.
I realise that they are incredibly fortunate to have a best friend who is always there but it goes further than that. It is a chemistry and bond that is hard to put into words. Even I do not fully feel a part of it, at times.
I rarely step back day-to-day and appreciate this amazing bond – it tends to just happen in front of my eyes. I take it for granted a bit.
They are hardly ever apart. I do not very often find Harry playing in one room and Lottie elsewhere – they are usually in the same corner of a room, playing the same game or chatting away. Even if the TV is on, they will both be sitting on the same sofa.
This of course does mean that they fall out…a great deal! Which used to really stress me out. I would find it so draining and such hard work. But being in the same space as somebody else all day, every day would cause this wouldn’t it? Especially when you are little and can’t really communicate or express your feelings to another toddler. However, now that they are 3 years old they are far better at ‘sorting it out’ – which can mean one giving up, or a little fight, or moving on to the next activity. But letting them work out their own differences is something I am working on. I tend to dive in too quickly and want to help (and protect) – but I am trying to step back more, within reason and giving them space to work out their own personalities and traits.
When they do get time alone (Lottie goes to ballet and Harry to rugby on a Saturday morning) they cuddle so tight when they meet up and say how much they missed each other. Even though this was only for a few hours.
Sometimes having twins brings its challenges, tough days and its moments. But mostly it makes me appreciate just how amazing being a twin is and how incredibly lucky we are to have brought them into the world.