You know you’re a Mum of twins when…

You know you're a Mum of twins when...

I read a brilliant post by one of my really good friends Sarah, who blogs over at Extraordinary Chaos – entitled ‘You know you live with boys when…’ It got me thinking about what it is like living with, and raising twins. And what it is REALLY like to be a Mum of toddler twins. So, you know you’re a Mum of twins when…

  1. We have to buy two of everything. And if the toy/sweets/present is slightly different in any way, then we are in big trouble!
  2. I never sit down. I can’t remember the last time I had a nice, relaxing day! Maybe when I was heavily pregnant – just before they arrived?!
  3. The house has never been so noisy. When they go for a nap/go out I realise just how loud they are! The house is always full of chattering, banging, crashing and walloping! They literally never stop talking to me. And unless I answer their question instantly they carry on asking!
  4. I get attention from everyone, all the time. People are fascinated…and honestly, I quite like it. It makes you realise how special they are.
  5. The washing basket never empties. The washing machine never stops whirring; I’m always trying to get clothes dry! I love the summer when I can fill the washing line with clothes!
  6. I always seem to be food shopping. We only ever seem to have a full fridge for a few hours after we’ve filled it! They are only 2.5 years old but I always seem to be feeding them! Someone is usually always having a growth spurt and wants “more Mummy!”.
  7. I can’t even put into words how tired I feel on a daily basis. Even with a good nights sleep!
  8. Looking back through photo’s of them as babies is overwhelming. It makes your heart melt seeing them so little. Always together.
  9. It takes us so long to get ready in the morning. I feel as though I am spending hours getting ready to go out! Gone are the days of quickly jumping in the shower and getting out of the house! It’s usually bedlam; with “Where’s your shoes?” and “Find your coat” and then one twin, always, absolutely, without a doubt, fills their nappy!
  10. The house is full of toys. I spend most of my life picking things up and putting them into toy boxes. And that is no exaggeration. Who knows where the whole of Mr Potato Head’s body parts are? Because I don’t.
  11. Going out for the day is a huge feat. Co-ordinating nap times, feeding times; making sure everything packed for the day, ensuring they don’t run off, is not a job for the faint hearted or weak.
  12. Everything is a challenge. Just literally everything! But when you’ve conquered it, it makes you feel SO good!
  13. There’s always an argument. Baking with them usually results in a fight over holding the spoon, reading a story disrupts into chaos because one wants to sit in front. And if one is playing nicely the other will always ruin it! However, the next minute they are then cuddling, or chatting away together, or singing. And it’s makes you feel all warm inside.
  14. They hate to be apart. If one is playing in one room, the other will always be in there too!
  15. I can’t remember life before them! Wait…let me try….nope, still can’t remember!
  16. I cannot believe how addicted to coffee, diet coke, cake and chocolate I now am. Literally addicted.
  17. I amaze myself each and every day with how hard I work and how much I get through. And yet, I am still the happiest and most content I have ever been in my life. It’s totally all worth it.

Despite (most) of that list!, being a Mum of twins is the most rewarding, satisfying, terrific job in the world. Their relationship together is a joy to watch and their little personalities are truly amazing. Yes it’s hard – but it’s also BRILLIANT fun and so wonderful to be a part of and be experiencing too.

And having twins and being a twin Mummy is very, very, very special.

Being a busy Mum of twins

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Jess Soothill

Jess is a Mother of twins, blogger and writer.

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  1. March 27, 2015 / 1:52 pm

    Completely agree with your list. It’s all very, very true! My twins are only 7 months but I also have 2 older ones to add into the mix! Definitely the hardest job in the world but I wouldn’t change it for anything 🙂

    • Jess
      March 27, 2015 / 1:56 pm

      Wow you do work hard then! I thought JUST twins was hard enough. You must be super-woman. Thanks for the comment, and here’s to a rest (one day!) Jess xx

  2. March 27, 2015 / 3:33 pm

    i have three girls and I feel much like you, but it’s different and you are just awesome. Because you are going through everything I am but in double.

    • Jess
      March 27, 2015 / 5:30 pm

      Thank you! 3 girls must be hard work too though right?? I reckon Lottie is triple the hard work of Harry!! He’s so chilled! Thanks for commenting, Jess x

  3. March 27, 2015 / 3:34 pm

    Awww this is a great list, but wow busy busy busy, I have trouble keeping up with Boo, I honestly don’t know what i would do if I had twins!! Hats off to you!!!

    • Jess
      March 27, 2015 / 5:29 pm

      Thank you. That’s why I adore chocolate and wine!! 😉 Jess x

    • Jess
      March 27, 2015 / 5:28 pm

      That is exactly it! Well summed up. Thanks for commenting, Jess xx

  4. March 27, 2015 / 5:15 pm

    I would secretly love to have twins but honestly? I think I like the idea of it more than the reality… I know how much hard work ONE is. Two? Well, that could push me over the edge!

    Great post – coming from one of those people who are fascinated by twins! 😉

    Jenna at Tinyfootsteps xx

    • Jess
      March 27, 2015 / 5:27 pm

      Ha ha! Twins are very intriguing and I know a lot of people who would say they would love to have twins too! You can have them for the weekend, and I reckon you’d change your mind LOL! Thanks for the comment, Jess x

  5. March 27, 2015 / 6:18 pm

    Jess I read this in booths coffee shop and giggled most of the way through, it is such a lovely post and so funny. And thank you for the mention lovely friend x

    • Jess
      March 27, 2015 / 7:12 pm

      Thanks for inspiring me lovely lady! Your post about living with boys was spot on and so relatable!! Thanks again for the comment, Jess x

  6. March 27, 2015 / 7:27 pm

    Love this post, I recognise all of these. It really does make you feel special when you are out doesn’t it!

    • Jess
      March 27, 2015 / 7:42 pm

      Very!! Although when one is having a tantrum, not so much! Although you do know people sympathise far more!! You’re my hero with three. Literally my hero. Jess xx

  7. March 27, 2015 / 8:10 pm

    Having just one is hard work, so I can only imagine how exhausting two must be! It’s lucky being a mummy a so rewarding 🙂 xxx

    • Jess
      March 28, 2015 / 9:40 am

      Yes it is!! I am very lucky. And despite the craziness, very happy too! Thanks for the lovely comments, Jess x

  8. March 27, 2015 / 9:37 pm

    I have two children 14 months apart and i totally agree about it being a challenge actually getting out the house and i can so relate to always feeling tired and becoming addicted to coffee. I bet having twins is so nice and special though xx #thelist

    • Jess
      March 28, 2015 / 9:41 am

      Ha ha! Yes coffee…we all love it don’t we?? Wow you don’t have much of an age gap at all…so very challenging too! However at least they’ll be best friends too! thanks for commenting, Jess x

  9. March 27, 2015 / 11:33 pm

    This is so true. Some days it’s so hard that I think they might break me, but then they’ll do something so adorable and it’s all worth it and I realise just how amazing they are. Experiencing lots of tantrums at the min (mainly Heidi) so wine, cake and chocolate feature quite a lot at the min! Great post x

    • Jess
      March 28, 2015 / 9:32 am

      Ha ha! What would we all do without wine? And cake? And chocolate??!! Phew! Thanks for commenting, Jess x

  10. March 29, 2015 / 8:02 pm

    Ha ha great list Jess! Can relate to a lot of this. Cupboards and fridge are packed – keeping up with feeding growing twins is hard work hey? Best job ever though hey? Love being a mummy and a mummy to my gorgeous girls. Fab post hun. Xxxx

    • Jess
      March 30, 2015 / 9:51 am

      Yep hardest but BEST job ever! Thanks for commenting, Jess x

  11. March 31, 2015 / 7:35 am

    Oh, Jess, I love this post. You are AWESOME. I can’t believe with all of that you find time for your freelance work and this wonderful blog. I think I need you to come and organise my life for me. Harry and Lottie do sound like hard work. But I know how gorgeous they are too! And you are an amazing mum. Hugs Mrs H xxxx

    • Jess
      March 31, 2015 / 11:44 am

      Thanks Mrs H! Not sure how I juggle it all, but somehow you just manage!! Thanks for the lovely comment. Jess x

  12. March 31, 2015 / 10:53 pm

    Having two of my own (although not twins) I also recognise a lot of those points! The noise, the washing, two of everything. And your right all it’s ALL worth it! Fun post xxx

    • Jess
      April 1, 2015 / 11:58 am

      Thanks lovely! Madness isn’t it? No idea whether I’ll ever get to the bottom of the washing basket! Maybe one day 😉 LOL xx

  13. April 1, 2015 / 12:12 pm

    Your twins look adorable. I’ve always wanted to have twins.

    • Jess
      April 1, 2015 / 12:16 pm


  14. April 1, 2015 / 8:16 pm

    lovely post jess although i don’t have twins I can still relate to alot of this with my girls! x

    • Jess
      April 19, 2015 / 12:01 pm

      Well you’re a VERY busy Mummy too – so hats off to you!! Amazing x

    • Jess
      April 2, 2015 / 5:17 pm

      So special. Very lucky – even though it’s hard, hard work! Thanks for the lovely comment, Jess x

  15. April 2, 2015 / 10:01 pm

    hahaha! This is brilliant – I love all the bustle but omg, questions asked over again…in stereo?! that would kill me!!! Even if I do answer I still get asked if a few more (hundred) times for good measure!

    Thanks for linking up, I don’t know how you find the time or the energy!! 😉
    #TheList xx

    • Jess
      April 3, 2015 / 8:07 am

      I’m not sure I do! Ha ha. Thank goodness for the weekends when I can get Hubby to take over! Jess x

  16. fenesy
    April 3, 2015 / 4:06 pm

    Lovely post jess……twin mommies are certainly special. ….yes its quite hard but totally worth it…..totally relate to all of the above my twins are 5 months yes there are maddening days and there are days when i feel blessed and so lucky to have em……
    looking forward to your interesting posts.cheers to twin mommies..cheers to you for inspiring us to keep.going:)

    • Jess
      April 3, 2015 / 6:13 pm

      Thanks!! Yes we work hard but we have some great rewards too! Thanks for commenting, xx

  17. April 9, 2015 / 8:29 am

    LOVE this post- I really don’t know how you twin mummies do it all! Well done you and hope you do get to sit down occasionally! xxx

    • Jess
      April 19, 2015 / 12:00 pm

      Thanks lovely lady – not sure I do, but it’s a great workout 😉 x

  18. May 6, 2015 / 8:33 am

    I can relate to this, I don’t have twins but I have two boys with a small age gap! And i need to let you into a theory.. Mr Potato head’s bits disappear and then reproduce! It is a nightmare, i am forever finding ears and hats!
    Found you on the kidscorner#1 linky x

  19. May 6, 2015 / 9:35 am

    Aww this is such a gorgeous post, I can only imagine how hectic and yet amazing being a twin mummy is. Zach is like a whirlwind most of the time…I cannot imagine having two of him!! #kidscorner

  20. May 6, 2015 / 9:55 am

    Love this post Jess thanks for linking up to #kidscorner I can relate to a lot of these points these little people certainly do turn our lives upside down don’t they!! xx

  21. May 6, 2015 / 11:15 am

    I love this post. I have twins too and they are 3 1/2 but I think all of the comments are still true to us – particularly the bit about the tea etc, and we have still not found all of poor Mr Potato heads body parts (and we have two of them!!).

  22. Maria Noell
    May 6, 2015 / 5:26 pm

    Great post! I’m sure that they are totally worth the constantly noisy house and the tired eyes. You manage to rock it, make it look so effortless and always look amazing 🙂 xxx

    • Jess
      May 6, 2015 / 6:16 pm

      Ha ha – not so sure but I am thankful for lots of help and wine 😉 xx

  23. May 6, 2015 / 7:49 pm

    I can relate so a few of these having 2 children but will never appreciate how hard it would be having twins go through various difficult stages together. Thing for me would be the stuff- double everything. That would do me in! Thank you so much for sharing in #KidsCorner x

    • Jess
      May 6, 2015 / 8:11 pm

      Ha ha – it does do me in on a regular basis!!!! Loving the new linky – fab idea xx

  24. May 6, 2015 / 8:57 pm

    Personally I can’t imagine how you all do it, I struggled with a 7 year age gap ha! My grandma had two sets and another 6, how did they used to manage? You deserve the caffeine, diet coke and chocolate lovely and your twins always look so happy xx

    • Jess
      May 6, 2015 / 9:00 pm

      Oh my goodness, and we moan!! Wow amazing stuff 🙂 xx

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